Friendship is about owning your 50% in a relationship.
You can’t control what the other person will or will not do. But you can always control how you show up.
However, learning how to be a good friend who knows her values, boundaries, how to be assertive and how to apologize… takes time and practice. It’s an art, that too often we don’t learn how to do.
Our brains are designed to care deeply about what other people think of us, because back in the day when humanity was still living in caves, there was only one group we belonged to. And if we weren’t like the others, the group could decide at any moment to let us go. Surviving in the wild on our own soon meant death.
This is why our brains still freak out when someone in our group doesn’t like us anymore. We then try and please, fit in… anything we can, because in our brains it hurts too much to be ousted.
But there isn’t only one group anymore. There are lots of groups now. And we will definitely not die.
So we need to consciously program ourselves with skills and values that let us be the friend that we want to be and choose friends with whom we belong, instead of just fit in with.
FROM COURAGEOUS GIRLS CLUB:
FREE ACTIVITIES FROM OTHER ORGANIZATIONS:
ACTIVITIES FOR A FEE:
IN THE NEWS
HOW TO BE A GOOD FRIEND - awesome article + video.
HOW TO HELP KIDS MAKE FRIENDS - 10 Evidence-based tips
HELPING GIRLS COPE WITH BULLYING AND FRENEMIES - What to do when friendship is used as a weapon.
WHAT MIDDLE SCHOOL STUDENTS NEED TO THRIVE - The top 10 social-emotional skills...
FRIENDSHIP MATTERS - Helping kids make and keep friends.
RUDE vs. MEAN vs. BULLYING: Defining the differences.
BYSTANDER TO BULLYING - What you should say to your child.
CONFIDENT IN CONFLICT - The 9 tools you need
INSTEAD OF FITTING IN, TRY THIS... - Building relationships is a muscle.
HOW TO BULLYPROOF YOUR CHILD - How to take the air out of teasing.
WHAT IS THE PURPOSE OF FRIENDSHIP - The key to the problem of friendship is found in an odd-sounding place: a lack of a sense of purpose.