We have around 60,000 a day, but how many of those are you even aware of?
And yet your thoughts dictate everything… how you feel, what actions you take or don’t take, and what results you have or lack in your life.
If a “negative” event happens to you, such as someone makes fun of you, you lose your job, or maybe even get into an accident…
It is NOT THE EVENT that then makes you feel a certain way such as sad or embarrassed, but rather YOUR THOUGHTS ABOUT THAT EVENT, immediately after.
We all interpret life events our own unique ways.
I think of it as a page of a coloring book, that is still just black and white.
This page is the event in your life, and no two people would color it the exact same way. So this life event will be interpreted your own unique way. (You are happy it’s rainy, because it’s good for your garden; you are mad because you wanted to play outside and now it’s too muddy, etc.) But either way, it’s not the rain that is positive or negative, but rather your thoughts about it.
There are different models that help us better understand this concept, such as this simple one from GoZen:
EVENTS (lead to) - THOUGHTS (which then lead to our) - REACTIONS
Another, more in depth one from The Life Coach School is this:
Either way you look at it, this is really powerful news.
However, over our lifetime, our Mammalian brain has memorized how we usually react to things, (as well as how others react to similar events, and how the world tells us to react to circumstances.) So while you might be thinking that you are choosing your own reactions, most likely you are just repeating your past reactions, as your brain quickly fires up to tell you how you usually feel in similar circumstances. Yup, you usually don’t raise your hand in new situations, so definitely don’t raise it now either. It’s too scary. You might die in the process.
So you need to learn to separate yourself from your automatic thoughts and reactions and decide how you really want to show up in your life.
Everything we ever want to do in life is to feel a certain emotion. Emotions are there for a reason, they motivate us, they keep us safe… and there is usually a message in each one of them. So figuring out who we are starts with our emotional intelligence, understanding our feelings, triggers, reactions, and learning how to create the right emotions for our own lives that set us up to live the life we truly want to lead.
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